Happy Thankful Thursday!
For new-comers to Thankful Thursday, each Thursday I put together a list of people/articles/etc. for which I am grateful. Why? Well… I think I will quote myself from last week where I believe I said it well:
Gratitude is free. Spreading love is free. Sharing something or someone I love with those who are willing to listen and read costs me nothing. If it helps in even the smallest way — if it makes you feel like you’ve been seen, even if it’s just for a moment, that’s meaningful to me. I see you, and I’m thankful for all you do to put yourself out there. I’m thankful that you have impacted my life with your words.
So, in short, Thankful Thursday is about spreading gratitude, love, and building community.
As I mentioned last week, this is not about wanting to get more followers, claps, whatever. I just want to share in community appreciation — perhaps what is meaningful to me will be meaningful to you too. Perhaps you will be introduced to someone new and choose to support them, too.
I will take the opportunity to briefly mention that this week has been tough for me — tougher than I thought it would be. This is my first full week working as a Creative Entrepreneur. I have wrestled with imposter syndrome, and have doubted myself more within the last few days than I have in months.
So much identity is wrapped around the “day job” that we think is so solid — the “day job” that roots us into the ground. The “day job” that is socially acceptable to others when you are meeting and greeting them for the first time.
Even though I chose to leave my day job, there is still a sense of mourning of my old identity.
Added to that sense of mourning is also a sense that perhaps I have made the biggest mistake of my life. Perhaps I bet on myself too early, and I’m not as prepared as I thought I was. These thoughts are not really at the forefront of my mind, but they occasionally peak around the corner and threaten me.
These are just a few of the demons I have been wrestling this week. So far I’m still winning, mostly with the help of medium friends, mentors and others I have picked up throughout my creative journey. So, I am thankful to those of you willing to share your own demons, make me laugh, and make me feel less alone. Thank you.
With that, here is my list for this week, in no particular order:
- Speaking of day jobs, why do we waste our lives working at jobs we hate? I don’t know, and neither does Jason Weiland. I’m kidding, kind of… but what I’m not joking about is loving this essay that Jason wrote with said title. Life is too short for work to make you miserable — I’m finding that out more and more myself. We must continue to support people who color outside of the lines. Check out Jason’s post here:
Why Do We Waste Our Lives Working at Jobs We Hate?
Why does our need for money cause us to destroy our lives?
2. Brian Rowe, the prolific writer of posts mostly about craft and about medium, wrote a story this week that truly touched me. It was personal and beautiful and showed a side of him that Medium writers don’t typically see. I loved it. Selfishly, perhaps, I’m sharing it here because I want him to write more articles like this. Please read and support his story here:
This was the first magical date I had with a guy.
Nearly three years after realizing I was gay, I finally had my first incredible date with another guy. Here’s the…
3. Shaunta Grimes wrote this week about how SAD has impacted her life. I connected with this piece because I too have SAD, I believe, and it’s only getting worse with age. My brother has it so badly that he lives in Florida and can’t handle the seasons at all. My biological father was similar. Anyway, Shaunta’s article has inspired me to want to tell my story living with SAD as well, and her tips for if you have living with SAD are useful and helpful. It made me feel less alone. Thank you Shaunta. Read her post here:
4. I kind of can’t believe this is my first thankful thursday post with B. Michael Logan in it because I’m such a huge fan of his work in humor. If you are into scary stories and scary poetry too, he is doing very well in those categories too, apparently. I’m a scaredy-cat, so that’s not up my alley. But, this is one of many of his humor posts that made me laugh. I love reading humor, and B. Michael Logan’s work is always at the top of my humor list. Check out one of his more recent post here:
5. Ansel G. wrote this beautiful, haunting poem this week that is absolutely stunning. My grandmother recently passed, and it reminded me of this wall of antique, small mirrors she had in her living room. No one wanted them — I took a few of them myself. Broken is not always broken in the eye of the beholder. Read and support Ansel’s poem here:
my heart is a ticking clock
my grandmother had a room full of non-working clocks I realized every single one of them pointed a special time for her…
6. I read Guérin Asante’s poetry every single day, to the point that when he didn’t post by a certain time one recent afternoon, I messaged him to make sure he was ok. Such an anxious, stereotypical thing for me to do, but he posts poetry so regularly that I got concerned. He tolerated my anxiety and told me he was fine, and I appreciated it. This poem “Rhythm” is beautiful and moving, as always, but the word play using emphasis is what got me — I loved it. Read “Rhythm” here:
7. Brett Christensen — you don’t know this, but I have said the following more times than I can count: “I wrote a poem about insomnia, but this guy wrote a poem about insomnia that I like more than mine.” It’s true, and I’m happy to admit it. This poem captures the defeat that goes along with insomnia flawlessly. If you too are plagued with insomnia, read Brett’s poem here:
8. Frank McKinley, a good friend of mine, wrote this piece about taking risk, and how to handle risk. Right now, my life is sort of characterized by taking risks, so this was a poignant piece for me. I am very thankful for Frank in general — he is a great person to get to know, and has helped me see my way out of quagmires. Read his post on risk here:
9. Jenny Justice is someone I have gotten to chat with just a bit on social media. She’s mostly known for her hiaku’s, but also writes other forms of poetry and a few articles, too. Jenny writes a lot about social justice and climate/ environmental issues, which is wonderful. But, the poem I’m including of hers this week is a meaningfully-written love poem about the significance of intimately touching foreheads. I love her unique perspective, and the love radiates from this piece. Read her poem here:
10. Kyrie Gray writes humor posts that have made me laugh out loud. The piece I have included this week isn’t one of them. Here, Kyrie writes about not being an artist, not feeling like an artist, and being told she wouldn’t be an artist. Her story is heartbreaking, especially since she is a beautiful artist, both with her words and with her visual/ graphic art. I relate to this, though. It is difficult to think of yourself as an artist when you have been told you are not. I loved Kyrie’s vulnerability in this piece, and appreciate so much that she was willing to share this story. Read Kyrie’s post here:
Thank you to all who have written posts, stories, and poems that moved me this week, and many other weeks before. If you have read to the end, I want to leave you with a quote that has inspired gratitude within me this week:
It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.
The quote is by Germany Kent, and I read it posted by Jen Sincero. If you are grateful today or any day, don’t forget to share it with someone else. No compliment is too small to brighten someone’s day.
Thank you for reading!